My friend Tammy from Florida sent me an e-mail recently that described the "poofer", which is a guy who "poofs" out of your life. I had never heard of this term but LOVE it. Tammy's e-mail was very timely, seeing as I went on a date last month and then after a few texts, "poof" I never heard from him again. I was on the fence (I seem to be there a lot after going on dates) about him - I liked him enough to go out with him again, but wasn't super excited about him. So when I didn't hear from him I didn't feel like putting forth the effort to contact him. Luckily I've never experienced a poofer whom I've dated for any period of time. My experience has been one (or two) and done, so I feel lucky that I've not put too much time or effort into them. Tammy's e-mail included the following paragraph:
"In conclusion, you’ll notice a common theme throughout this explanation of poofers. If a guy poofs on you, CONSIDER IT A BLESSING! It’s the best gift you could have ever received, like your birthday and Christmas all rolled up together. Imagine pursuing a relationship with one of these men. Will the Emotional Midget be there to hold you when you’ve had a bad day? Will the Pretender be a trustworthy relationship partner? Will the Player have his eyes focused on you in the restaurant?"
In conclusion, my advice to any man (or woman-women can poof too!) is to just be honest! If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. I read somewhere that a good thing to say is something along the lines of, "I don't feel that indescribable 'something' when I'm with you". Most people will understand what you're talking about. It's not easy to do, but it's the right thing to do.