Over the years I’ve joked that my niece better not get married before I do. I started saying it when she was a kid. She’s now 25. And she’s getting married in a week.
She got engaged in December 2016, so I’ve had a lot of time to process it. Immediately after it happened, I declared to a friend that I needed to get moving if I wanted to fulfill my prophesy.
Last summer I tweaked my plan, as I thought I’d have a better chance to find a date for the wedding. During a long bike ride (where I usually have best ideas) I came up with the concept of putting something on a dating site about finding a wedding date, and modeling it after the movie Wedding Date. Something like, “Need a wedding date. Must have a suit. Must look good in said suit. Must be a reasonably good dancer. Must not get drunk at the reception. Will not pay you $6,000, but dinner and drinks are included. Sex is not included. Not mandatory that you look like Dermot Mulroney, but must be reasonably handsome. The only resemblance I have with Debra Messing is curly hair and a small chest.” I have my full list somewhere. I thought it was clever, although I realize most men would have no idea what I was referring to.
I fully intended to post my idea, but…let’s just say something came up that precluded me from doing so. Divine intervention? Possibly. And you know what? I’m ok with all of this. I think if I was in my 30s or early 40s I might have a different outlook. Certainly still happy for Megan and Taylor. But maybe a little sad about my personal situation(?) At this stage in my life all I feel is excitement for them with zero thoughts of myself.
Another cool aspect is that over the years, my friends have become friends with my brother and sister-in-law, so not only will it be a fun family affair, but my friends get to celebrate with us too.
Earlier this year Megan asked me to host her bridal shower and I dove in head first. I started OD’ing on Pinterest and found a photo that I wanted to re-create.
I knew what I wanted it to look like, but I had no idea how to do it. I started by walking around Hobby Lobby. For an hour. That was followed by trips to Michael's, JOANN Fabrics and a return trip to Hobby Lobby. My first project was the sign banner. I saw them online, but wanted to make them myself. I bought poster board, twine, small bottles of gold glitter and black paint, letter stencils and foam “brushes.” I cut 6”x 6” squares, painted the lettering on with black paint using the stencils, and then dabbed the gold glitter paint on the edges for effect. Then I punched holes in the top to string the twine.
My cousin Diane helped out with the ribbon banner. I borrowed one from her son's wedding last summer and accented the various beige ribbons with lavender cloth strips.
My pièce de résistance was the chair veil. Again from the original photo. I bought two yards each of lavender and white tulle and cut them lengthwise into two strips. I then sewed them together on the long edge using a wide stitch. I pulled on one of the thread strands, which made the tulle gather nicely. I had the two lavender pieces on top, with the two white pieces underneath, so you got the fullness with just a hint of lavender. I hand-sewed a thick, satin lavender ribbon to the tulle so I could tie it on the back of the chair. On the side facing out, I hot-glued small, lavender artificial flowers. So pretty!
One of the shower games was “Words of Wisdom” where people write on a piece of paper, roll it up, and put it in a wine bottle. The married couple then opens a bottle on each anniversary date specified. I started out with anniversary years 1, 5, 10, 25 and 50. When I mentioned this to my sister-in-law Lori, she said, “50?! That’s a long time to keep track of a bottle!” I reconsidered and cut it down to four bottles, stopping at 25. I made my own labels and adhered them to the bottles with Mod Podge.
Our other games were to guess the bride’s age from a collage of pictures, and getting points for certain items you had in your purse. Easy games they could complete while getting food and mingling.
The last game was to set a timer when Megan started opening her presents. When it went off (I re-set it every five minutes), whoever’s gift she was opening received the prize.
My last touch was to use some leftover tulle to make a tiny veil for the pen I used to write down the gifts.
The prizes we gave were personalized lip balm and a personalized candle tin. So cute! And Lori got the cutest party favors - baby whisks!
The shower was in the afternoon, so we had desserts. Lori made cake pops, tiny s’mores and chocolate peanut butter Ritz. She also made a trifle. I brought an assortment of fruits, nuts, and Megan’s co-maid of honor sent Shari’s Berries. Our drinks were Blushing Bride Moscato strawberry lemonade (strawberry lemonade, Moscato wine and strawberry vodka), My Main Squeeze lemonade, and Sweet on You unsweetened iced tea.
James Taylor’s song “Shower The People” states, “Shower the people you love with love. Show them the way that you feel.” I’m happy that I was able to shower Megan and our guests with a lovely day. Here’s to Megan and Taylor and their upcoming nuptials. I wish them a lifetime full of love and happiness.