Over
the years I’ve joked that my niece better not get married before I do. I started saying it when she was a kid. She’s now 25.
And she’s getting married in a week.
She
got engaged in December 2016, so I’ve had a lot of time to process it. Immediately after it happened, I declared to
a friend that I needed to get moving if I wanted to fulfill my prophesy.
Last
summer I tweaked my plan, as I thought I’d have a better chance to find a date for the wedding. During a long bike ride (where I usually have
best ideas) I came up with the concept of putting something on a dating site
about finding a wedding date, and modeling it after the movie Wedding Date. Something like, “Need a wedding date. Must have a suit. Must look good in said suit. Must be a reasonably good dancer. Must not get drunk at the reception. Will not pay you $6,000, but dinner and
drinks are included. Sex is not
included. Not mandatory that you look
like Dermot Mulroney, but must be reasonably handsome. The only resemblance I have with Debra
Messing is curly hair and a small chest.”
I have my full list somewhere. I
thought it was clever, although I realize most men would have no idea what I
was referring to.
I
fully intended to post my idea, but…let’s just say something came up that
precluded me from doing so. Divine
intervention? Possibly. And you know what? I’m ok with all of this. I think if I was in my 30s or early 40s I
might have a different outlook. Certainly
still happy for Megan and Taylor. But
maybe a little sad about my personal situation(?) At this stage in my life all I feel is
excitement for them with zero thoughts of myself.
Another
cool aspect is that over the years, my friends have become friends with my
brother and sister-in-law, so not only will it be a fun family affair, but my
friends get to celebrate with us too.
Earlier
this year Megan asked me to host her bridal shower and I dove in head
first. I started OD’ing on Pinterest and
found a photo that I wanted to re-create.
I
knew what I wanted it to look like, but I had no idea how to do it. I started by walking around Hobby Lobby. For an hour. That was followed by trips to Michael's, JOANN Fabrics and a return trip to Hobby Lobby. My first project was the sign banner.
I saw them online, but wanted to make them myself. I bought poster board, twine, small bottles
of gold glitter and black paint, letter stencils and foam “brushes.” I cut 6”x 6” squares, painted the lettering on
with black paint using the stencils, and then dabbed the gold glitter paint on
the edges for effect. Then I punched
holes in the top to string the twine.
My cousin Diane helped out with the ribbon banner. I borrowed one from her son's wedding last summer and accented the various beige ribbons with lavender cloth strips.
My pièce de résistance was the chair veil. Again from the original photo. I bought two yards each of lavender and white tulle and cut them lengthwise into two strips. I then sewed them together on the long edge using a wide stitch. I pulled on one of the thread strands, which made the tulle gather nicely. I had the two lavender pieces on top, with the two white pieces underneath, so you got the fullness with just a hint of lavender. I hand-sewed a thick, satin lavender ribbon to the tulle so I could tie it on the back of the chair. On the side facing out, I hot-glued small, lavender artificial flowers. So pretty!
One
of the shower games was “Words of Wisdom” where people write on a piece of
paper, roll it up, and put it in a wine bottle.
The married couple then opens a bottle on each anniversary date specified. I started out with anniversary years 1, 5,
10, 25 and 50. When I mentioned this to
my sister-in-law Lori, she said, “50?!
That’s a long time to keep track of a bottle!” I reconsidered and cut it down to four
bottles, stopping at 25. I made my own
labels and adhered them to the bottles with Mod Podge.
Our
other games were to guess the bride’s age from a collage of pictures, and
getting points for certain items you had in your purse. Easy games they could complete while getting
food and mingling.
The last game was to
set a timer when Megan started opening her presents. When it went off (I re-set it every five
minutes), whoever’s gift she was opening received the prize.
My last touch was to use some leftover tulle to make a tiny veil for the pen I used to write down the gifts.
The
prizes we gave were personalized lip balm and a personalized candle tin. So cute! And Lori got the cutest party favors - baby whisks!
The
shower was in the afternoon, so we had desserts. Lori made cake pops, tiny s’mores and
chocolate peanut butter Ritz. She also
made a trifle. I brought an assortment
of fruits, nuts, and Megan’s co-maid of honor sent Shari’s Berries. Our drinks were Blushing Bride Moscato strawberry lemonade (strawberry lemonade, Moscato wine and strawberry vodka),
My Main Squeeze lemonade, and Sweet on You unsweetened iced tea.
James
Taylor’s song “Shower The People” states, “Shower the people you love with
love. Show them the way that you
feel.” I’m happy that I was able to
shower Megan and our guests with a lovely day.
Here’s to Megan and Taylor and their upcoming nuptials. I wish them a lifetime full of love and
happiness.